Big – 1988

The year was 1988.   I’d spent countless hours begging my mother incessantly in that desperate, nine year old beggary voice…begging for the chance to see Big in the theaters.  I went so far as to cut the picture of it from the film section of the newspaper (it was a big, goofy picture of Tom Hank’s face), and I’d carry it around and show her with the hope of annoying her into taking me to see it.  When she finally did, I loved it then and for many years to come.  I’ve seen the film about 786 times to date, but seeing it again recently after a very long while opened my eyes to a few key elements that a 9 year olds eyes will never see.  The main character, Josh Baskin, wished ‘to be big’; he got his wish, and woke up one morning looking like Tom Hanks.  Most of the movie involved Tom Hanks acting like he was 12, but what I hadn’t noticed before was the emphasis on choices.  I had no idea that the movie was so complex; taken apart, it had some very deep inner workings.

As an adult, the kid found great success working at MacMillan Toys, great love with Susan (the love interest), and a maturity that most 12 year olds don’t possess.  He also earned a pretty powerful conundrum that most kids don’t have to endure; having to choose between continuing a successful adult life, or reverting back to the reality of his youth.  In my opinion, the most powerful scene in the film was when he went back home, in adult form, and witnessed firsthand what he had, and ultimately would, miss out on if he chose the adult path.  The ‘innocence’ of youth, friends, games, and family stared him in the face, and either decision that he made was bound to hurt someone.  It showed that life revolves around choices, great or minor, and though some choices may hurt one person or another, ultimately, you have to make the best decision for you.

He followed his heart and went back to his family and his young self in the end, but his decision to do so was embedded in my head for a few days after I’d watched the movie.  So many of us in life, when confronted with great decisions, freeze up from indecision, and rather than formulate a well-calculated battle plan, we end up making none and floating through life under the mercy of fate.  It takes incredible character to choose knowing that those choices may hurt others, but benefit you.  Hey, if the kid in the film was able to make a sound decision that would affect the lives of everyone around him, then we should all be able to, right?  Twenty-five years after seeing Big, I finally got a sense of the soul of the movie; follow your heart, and you can’t go wrong.   It’s never too late to learn that message.


One comment

  1. gypsy11

    you’ve had a powerful awareness. we can only make choices for ourselves and our own happiness (of course we have to choose for the safety of our children, but that’s not what I’m talking about here). but first we have to believe that we deserve to be happy and that it is our birthright to be so. we do (deserve happiness) and it is (our right). it’s presumptuous to think we can make decisions that are in the best interest of others. it’s also arrogant! it’s hard enough making empowering decisions for ourselves, much less knowing what someone else needs. you’re right, it takes incredible character to make decisions “thinking” the choice will hurt others. it also takes incredible courage! our decisions may hurt others in the beginning, but may benefit them in the long run. sometimes we think the decisions we’re making are saving others from suffering, but in actuality they may only be prolonging the anguish for all.

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